Read my last blog first if you want, this is Part II.
I didn't know there'd be a part two but it would appear I have more to say. After posting yesterday, I found myself thinking over what feedback really is and how to get quality feedback on your work.
More and more I am understanding that the need for the creator to direct the feedback is critical.
This is because that to get quality feedback what we really are asking about is the vehicle not the content! Whoa. Let's think about this. When we are writing or painting or singing a love song; the thing we need or ask for help on is "how" we are presenting the material, not the material itself.
I have two examples to illustrate. Let's say there is a Writer's Forum and I join. Also, let's pretend something in the extreme; I am writing porn. If I post my story and say I need feedback; all I'll get is thrashed by the content of my work. Everyone is shocked and disturbed and no one benefits. Now, if I post my story and say I am struggling with trying to write "in a sense of urgency" then the group has something to respond to. In getting quality feedback, one must look beyond the content and zero in on the delivery method.
Second example. Something I actually DO write! I'm proud to say I've been published three times, here is one that made it online too. Obviously I'm fairly proud of my little successes. What I tend to write on is specific to my field - lighting design for the modern dance stage under the larger umbrella of making new work. What seems to satisfy the publishers is when I write opinion pieces (or rants). Currently I'm struggling with another article that is on Collaboration. I could imagine myself asking for feedback as I work and edit through my draft.
Offering my article to a Writer's Forum for feedback; I know I don't need help on the technical terms. I need help on the delivery of the material. Even with an article laden with tech-speak, I should be able to get quality feedback from a wise pair of eyes, if; I ask for help in a specific area and my critic can look beyond the content.
If we are interested in developing the Art of the Feedback, then we must learn to hone our skills. This isn't really a talent so much as learning a technique. It will be applied in everyday life as you may be asked if you like someone's choices; be it someone's poem, a garden lay out or even "does this dress make me look fat?"
In the case of the classic dress conundrum, trust me - focus on the vehicle and not the content! "Do you think it echo's your personality?" might work much better than any other doomed response. Learning to hone an easily learned skill simply makes you a better person since you can now properly meet one's needs. Having your needs met requires you to direct where your expectations lay.
Peace.